As a child, nearly all children share the same fear of “fear of ghosts” or, more broadly, fear of the dark. There are 5 ways parents can help their children.
A study by two researchers Joshua Levos and Tammy Lowery Zacchilli of the University of Saint Leo (Florida, USA) showed that 54% of people surveyed consider darkness as one of the top 5 fears. their.
If even adults have this fear, it is not uncommon for children to keep seeing darkness imagining monsters under the bed, even imagining frightening things and naming them as “ghost”. Although your children will eventually get out of this, there are ways you can help them get rid of this fear sooner.
Listen to your baby
Take your child’s fears seriously and listen to them talk about their fears. Don’t get rid of it by bending down to check under the child’s bed and saying that there are no ghosts or monsters there. This practice can actually make things worse, as you may inadvertently prove to your child that you believe ghosts can be real.
The best way to do this is to ask children exactly what makes them feel afraid and show that you understand their fears. However, you don’t have to share this fear with them. Finally, reassure them that they are safe and that you will be with them if they feel scared again.
Praise your child
Studies have shown that positive affirmations can change the way we think about a problem where we previously had negative views. That means if you say positive words to yourself, you can start to believe it. Therefore, it helps if you tell your children how brave they are. Praise them for their fear of the dark and fantasy monsters. The positive words from you can help your children truly believe they can overcome their fears, whether it’s the devil under the bed or the scary darkness.
Use a night light
There are many creative shapes and colors of night lights that can help your child relax and feel safe in the dark. Various types of night lights like animals, stars … you can buy and put in your child’s room or indoors if they need to go to the toilet at midnight. Also, make sure that if you are using conventional lamps, those products do not create scary shape shadows. Another thing to note is that the brightness of these devices can affect sleep.
The dark room can be a playground
Your children may view the dark as something scary and dangerous, but you can completely change how they look and feel. For example, you could have a ball puppet show, a party with glow sticks and glowing bracelets … to give your child a treat. You can also put your child on a nightgown with a picture that glows in the dark. As a result, your child will learn to connect darkness with something interesting and entertaining.
The reason children are afraid of the dark may not be really based on their fear of the dark, but also on the transition from light to dark. When you suddenly turn off the lights, your eyes will not see anything for a few seconds because the adjustment is required. These may be the seconds when your child may begin to feel fear.
There is a tip you can try to help your child adjust to the dark more easily. Ask your child to close their eyes while the light is on. Then turn off the lights, put your hands on their eyes and ask them to count to 10 with you. When the counting is done, tell your child to open their eyes. After children count to 10, the room will not feel as dark as before, especially when equipped with night lights.
Thuy Linh (According to Brightside)