AmericaThey are only in their twenties, even young girls who have never had any sexual experience still decide to be sterilized because they think “giving birth is a mistake”.
At the Park Slope Cafe, Rachel Diamond looks like most moms. She wears a blue T-shirt, black pants, a leather bag, sips a glass of water 4 USD. But this 31-year-old woman is different from most people around, because she will never be a mother.
On Diamond’s TikTok account, most are funny short videos about work at a coffee shop near Union Square, New York or about pitbull dogs. Interspersed with videos glorifying life without children. It has been 5 months since the vasectomy, she has 64,000 followers.
Growing up near Hershey, Pennsylvania, Diamond had always believed he would have a family. After studying at Arcadia University, her mindset gradually changed, especially after being helped by a therapist once to realize that being spanked as a child caused deep trauma, making her afraid of her father. She never wanted a certain child to be her victim.
Diamond is no exception. Americans are having fewer births since 1930. Women like Diamond not only abort the pregnancy, but give up the possibility of pregnancy altogether.
According to statistics site Pew, last year the number of deaths exceeded the number of births in 25 states. The marriage rate is also at an all-time low with 6.5 marriages per 1,000 people. About 56% of Millennials (born 1981-1996) are unmarried.
They also don’t have sex. The number of young men between the ages of 18 and 30 who admit to not having sex in the past year has more than tripled from 2008 to 2018. Cities like New York, where Americans flock to to build life, increasingly do not want to have children. In San Francisco, there are more dogs than children.
The causes of this change take place in both spirituality, culture and surroundings. The message from these young people is clear: Life is exhausting enough and the world is overloaded, so no one should bring a new, innocent life into an unstable and climate-changing society.
According to a new poll, 39% of Gen Z people (born 1996-2012) are hesitant to procreate because of fear of the climate apocalypse. A study of adults in Michigan found that more than a quarter of people actively did not have children. According to another study by the American Institute of Family Studies, the desire to have children among adults has decreased by 17% since the outbreak of the pandemic.
“I think it’s morally wrong to send a child into the world,” said Isabel, 28, a self-proclaimed anti-connoisseur, who lives in southwestern Texas.
New Texas abortion law forced the girl to act sooner. “I was going to wait until I was thirty to have the procedure but, with the new bill, I can’t risk getting pregnant without being able to have an abortion,” she said.
Last week, she was approved for minor surgery. Isabel is planning a “welcome sterilization” ceremony at a local sushi shop. There will be a lot of gatherings with friends. Her brother also attended with his gay partner, who also had no children. “I don’t want to ruin my life,” says Isabel, who hopes to retire at 50 or earlier.
Darlene Nickell, 31, of Denver, Colorado, had her fallopian tubes removed eight months ago. “My generation is very aware of the ways in which parents hurt their children. My mother smokes weed and is self-centered, and my father works all day,” she shared.
The first time she wanted to be sterilized was at the age of 21 and was told by her doctor that she needed her boyfriend’s written consent or had two children. Meanwhile, a boyfriend from her high school days had a vasectomy a year earlier.
Darlene said her two younger sisters are likely to follow in her footsteps. “The 23-year-old sister is trying to be sterilized, and the youngest says she likes life without children,” she said.
Sophia, a 19-year-old media student in British Columbia, has been sterilized by a doctor in Canada. She shared that her parents did not object to this decision. She herself doesn’t see any point in taking pills or using a non-permanent birth control method because she clearly knows she doesn’t want to have children. “I would do this invasive thing for once, rest for a few days and never think about it again,” she said.
Sophia was surprised that the doctor, who would sterilize her in the coming months, did not ask about her sexual history. “I’m a virgin and was worried she’d kick me out for sex before agreeing to do it. Luckily she didn’t ask,” Sophia said.
According to Clay Routledge, a psychologist at North Dakota State University who has studied young people’s attitudes toward the future, there is an increasingly common stream of thought that “people are born a mistake. wrong”.
These people have many reasons for not wanting to have children: fear of pregnancy, fear of authority, fear of postpartum depression… In the case of Diamond and her boyfriend Gilkes, it is racism. Diamond is white, Gilkes is black. They worry about what life will be like for a biracial child in the United States. “My ex-girlfriend broke up with me because she didn’t want to face the racism of dating a black guy,” Gilkes said.
And Sophia does not have a clear vision of her life in the future other than traveling. In high school, she visited Ecuador and Kenya on charity trips and dreamed of traveling on all continents.
When the journalist asked Sophia about her hopes for a childless life and what to do with all her free time, she replied sounding annoyed: “It’s hard to ask a 19-year-old who hasn’t finished school yet. college what they want their life to be.”
Bao Nhien (Follow Nypost)