The power of three words ‘Dad/Mom loves you’

Research by scientists has shown that words of love for children have an impact not only on the time, but also the whole life of a child.

American psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein once wrote: “It is not enough for you to love your child. If you do not express it in words, the child will not be able to feel your love.”

Asian parents are often afraid to express their love to their children verbally, especially when their children are through infancy. According to the traditional concept of East Asia, parents think that expressing by the act of caring, nurturing… will be more meaningful and practical. However, this way of showing love makes many children mistakenly believe that their parents do not love them. Meanwhile, Western parents are more comfortable in this.

Educators and psychologists have discovered many effects of the three words “I love you”.

Children are more confident

When parents express their love for their children verbally, children are being sent the message that their relationship with their parents is very positive. They can fully feel the love and care of their family for them. Love expressed in words makes children’s psyche stronger, children feel safe and confident in everything they do.

A study conducted at the University of Sydney (Australia) once showed that confidence plays a fundamental role in a child’s life, including academic achievement, communication skills, and EQ. .. Therefore, the power of saying love your child, is not only timely, but also fosters strong self-confidence, helping children all the way through life.

Children communicate better

Children who grow up with their parents’ loving words will not only be more confident but also more empathetic than others. As children get older, they learn to look at problems from other people’s perspectives, are more friendly and help people. As a result, children build a wide social network by themselves, able to attract people and receive help.

Children have a strong ability to express emotions

Children who hear their parents say “I love you” will respond “I love you”. This means that children receive love and vice versa, express love. Children’s emotional expression skills, over time, become better than those of children who do not receive emotional expression from their parents.

More than material things, for children, love is definitely the best nutrition to grow them up. When parents actively express their love to their children in words, children understand more about the meaning of family. In this way, children will also learn to love others and build a better life for themselves in the future.

For Asian parents, if saying love makes you hesitate, you can start by writing a message, a picture, a letter to your child with three words I love you, this will very meaningful to the child.

Thuy Linh (According to QQ)


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