Whether a man is mature or not is not at the age but depends on whether he or she has truly understood, lived responsibly or not.
Article by psychologist Mao Dai of China
A fertility center in Seoul, South Korea recently issued a guide for prenatal women, with some content that upset many people. For example: Before being admitted to the hospital, remember to check the amount of daily necessities such as toilet paper, toothpaste, soap, detergent so as not to cause trouble for your family; Remember to prepare food so husbands can do housework quickly; Prepare underwear, socks, and jackets that your husband will change in 3-7 days, so keep them in a drawer in conspicuous places for her husband to quickly find it.
Although the above instruction was later deleted, many people questioned: “Many men have grown up over time, but deep inside, is he still a boy?”.
For many men, they see being “raised” as a standard in life.
Recently, a newspaper in China sent reporters to closely follow the life of a couple surnamed Zhang in Shijiazhuang for 21 consecutive days. The wife’s daily work is to go to the market, take her children to school, go out, teach her children and take care of all the housework. While the husband’s job is much simpler, most of them are at work, only at the weekend. Ironically, during the two days at home, he never did anything. Although the wife is engrossed in outside work, when she comes back she still doesn’t forget to cook for her husband.
Without the attention and news, no one cares about the life of an ordinary woman like Ms. Truong. In the eyes of many people, a wife like her will have no difficulty doing all the trivial things such as cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children … But whoever has experienced it can feel it. “It is boring and disappointing if no one can handle the housework with me”.
Someone once asked a question on China’s largest Q&A site Zhihu: “After giving birth, how many women are disappointed with their husbands?” A storyteller, the son slept between the couple, and at 3:30 a.m. suddenly got up crying. The wife was tired, hoping that her husband would wake her up, but was hopeless. Finally, she got up to make the baby’s milk, while her husband still snore evenly. The wife discovered that there were a package of cakes in the cupboard. Because she was hungry, she pulled out one and took a bite “rattled”. At this moment, the husband jumped up, stared at his wife and asked: “Did you eat something?”.
When do women’s hearts die? That’s when hope turns into disappointment. “Behind the fine clothes, huge body is a husband who never grows up,” said the woman.
How valuable is a man?
It is said that the happiest regions in China are Sichuan and Chongqing, because there are many men afraid of wives. Here, the man knows how to cook and look after the children while the women play mahjong freely. Can men only create happiness when they are “afraid of the wife”?
In my opinion, men do not have to take care of the housework, nor do they need to be proficient in taking care of the baby, as long as they know how to think about their wife and take care of the family a little, the wife will feel happy.
Many friends around me envy me because I have a “good husband”. Two days off for the weekend, he can take his children out all day so his wife can rest. At home, he used to wash clothes, sweep and clean the house for his wife. To be fair, it doesn’t take too much effort. I have to take care of my children all week and do housework when I have free time. But when I have a sharing husband, when I’m tired, I have a shoulder to lean on, and I can sleep back and sleep because my husband is willing to help. So I was too satisfied.
Society has always called for women to be independent, but men should be more independent. Taking care of life, taking care of children and taking care of his wife independently is the responsibility of men.
The 2020 Public Mental Health Awareness Report published by Simple Psychology points out: 73.17% of women’s negative emotions come from “I often feel unhappy about my husband’s actions. me. “
The wife’s postpartum depression is not caused by fatigue, nor is it due to the work pressure, but the attitude and actions of the husband. Many women say, “I’m not too tired, but I always feel lonely. Even if I’m a superman, I need a husband to work with”.
Every woman was once an innocent young woman, yearning for happiness for a complete family. No one wants to become a superman and then fall down in despair. For men, no matter how busy the job, no matter how many friends there are, everything still works normally without friends or work. But if the family lacked a man, half of the sky would collapse.
In a Beijing TV program, a question was asked for guests to argue: “Wife is not at home, how are you?”
A female guest said that Asian men, whether 30 or 50 years old, are not much different. Every day, they wait for a woman like a mother or a wife, and then just sit and eat. Many families even have men who have never been in the kitchen because they consider it not their job. Wives are hungry, dirty clothes or sick are also taken care of … my job is to make money, that’s all. “Compared to children, are these men any different? My wife, wife, the only difference is that there is no need to give her test scores,” said the female guest.
This guest said that children are heartless, so no one will blame them. But when a man is married and still like a child, it is not okay at all. “A man to death is still just like a child, because behind them is the cost of the women. Big body must also grow on the person inside. Don’t live like that. “This man insisted.
Vy Trang (According to the sohu)