Materialistic children often form the belief that success is measured by the possession of expensive items or large amounts of material possessions.
This makes them look down on the poor, have a skewed view of the value of life as adults. Therefore, to raise children who do not value material things, education experts point out four methods.
Changing children’s attitudes and beliefs
Most parents have the view that it is necessary to raise and guide their children to study in a good school (high school, university), have a good job when they graduate, a stable and rich life when they grow up. Fort.
However, Leonard Sax, America’s leading child psychologist, wrote a book titled “The Collapse of Parenting” (The Fall of Parenthood) to change that perception. In the book, he shows that the right role parents must play has little to do with ensuring their children a successful, wealthy future. He said that children should not be helped by urging their children to study hard to achieve high results, get into top universities, get high-paying jobs… Instead, parents should equip themselves with knowledge. , so your child can face the challenges of the adult world and real life proactively.
It is very difficult for parents to accept the fact that having a normal life is not a bad thing. As long as the child has meaningful work to do, someone to love and an ideal to strive for, that’s all that matters.
Teach children about gratitude
Studies show that gratitude has the strongest relationship with life satisfaction. It is also especially beneficial for children.
Children who know how to express gratitude often become less pragmatic, more materialistic. They also show kindness and generosity towards others and feel positive about themselves. Gratitude protects children from stress and depression over time.
Loh Shurn Lin, a Singaporean financier and child educator, shared that in order to nurture her child’s gratitude, she and her family decided to sponsor a Cambodian child in an orphanage run by Operation Hope. onion. Through contact with orphans, her son no longer wants to receive gifts from his parents, even willing to spend his savings to support the children at the orphanage.
Travel to experience instead of learning too much
Instead of taking too many extra-curricular classes, children should be cultivating shared-purpose life skills such as critical thinking, communication, collaboration, and creativity.
Children’s essential skills involve learning to adapt and be mentally resilient to cope with the ever-changing pace of life. Instead of pouring money into classes and courses, parents should let their children spend more time on trips, give them the opportunity to immerse themselves in nature, try before difficulties. Family trips also help children keep beautiful memories.
Jack Ma once said: “Our children don’t need to be in the top three positions in the class. A normal position is also good, because that way, children have more free time to learn other skills.”
Treat housework like homework
Many articles have been written about the benefits of encouraging children to do housework. It not only helps teach children life skills but also helps to form self-esteem, a sense of mastery and responsibility for family and self.
By assigning children to do household chores, parents inculcate in children’s minds that their role in the family is not only about schoolwork. They also need to contribute to the happiness of the family by supporting their parents.
Don’t forget, when you let your kids out of the housework, it’s like you’re telling them, “Your time is too precious to be spent on errands,” as well as, “You’re too much. important to do chores”. Instead, emphasize to your child that chores are also “homework” for them.
Thuy Linh (According to Asianparent)