In July, Dang Truong’s family of 4 (10 years old, HCMC) were all F0. The three children became seriously ill first, and were transferred to Cho Ray hospital for treatment. After nearly a week on oxygen, the mother passed away. “At that time, I thought my mother was sleeping,” Truong said.
When his mother died, Truong picked up the phone and dialed the number three repeatedly, but only heard the beeping. Half a month later, I learned that my father died a day after my mother. The house on An Duong Vuong street, An Lac A ward, Binh Tan district now has only me and my 18-year-old sister left. Returning from the hospital, the two sisters closed the door tightly and had little contact with their neighbors.
The shock was so great that Truong often went in and out of the small house, sometimes saying words without beginning or end in front of the altar. Many times, the boy sat holding his mother’s backpack, fiddling with his father’s coat. Tran Thi Ngoc Tuyen, Truong’s older sister, now takes the place of both her father and mother to take care of and support her younger brother. Tuyen did not dare to cry because “if I cry, baby Truong will cry too”.
Dang Truong is one of 2,091 children who lost their parents due to Covid-19. With the fact that many children are orphaned with both parents, many children have difficult family circumstances, localities are mobilizing units and benefactors to support, care for and sponsor.
In Ho Chi Minh City, in addition to the allowance for orphans under 4 years old according to the regulations of 540,000 to 900,000 VND per month, the children are granted health insurance cards, tuition fee exemption and reduction until the age of 16. The locality also mobilized benefactors to support each child from 3 to 5 million VND once.
Recently, the Central Youth Union launched the program Connecting the arms of love to call for individuals and businesses to join hands to take care of children until they are 18 years old.
Accompanying this program, FPT Corporation announced that it will nurture and train 1,000 children from 6-18 years old nationwide.. The school does not apply academic requirements as a basis for admission, instead will welcome children who wish to participate in the program and have the approval of a legal guardian. After the age of 18, students who wish to study at FPT University or graduate school will be supported with scholarships.
Experts say that with many children falling into orphans at the same period, taking care of them will become more difficult for localities and families. How to make them overcome the phobia of the epidemic, study safely in a good training environment and be fully, comprehensively and long-term developed is a problem that needs to be solved.
On the Love Portal opened by FPT Corporation to receive ideas and suggestions for schools to raise orphans, among hundreds of comments sent, many people mentioned taking care of the psychology and teaching methods. coax them.
“How can the children, even though they no longer have a father or mother, still feel the immense love of the school and the community for them?” a reader commented. “Children need to be comprehensively developed into useful people for society and receive support and long-term commitment,” another reader shared.
Psychologist – Tran Kim Thanh said that unlucky children who lost their parents had to go through a great emotional shock. At this time, the direct parent needs to create a close relationship, regularly have private and intimate conversations to understand the gaps that exist in the child, helping the “wound” to be filled. When adults do that, children will trust and feel that they are compensated for their lack of affection and will strive to study well and grow up.
In fact, each child will experience different psychological effects. For example, a friend who was lively suddenly became quiet. Previously, the child was confident because his parents always encouraged him, now he is self-deprecating. These are external manifestations, there may be other problems inside. At this time, they need a psychologist to accompany them. Experts will meet each child, learn, talk, come up with their own solutions because there is no common pattern.
After many years of working, Dr. Nguyen Viet Chung, Department of Mental Health – E Hospital realized that children who suddenly lose loved ones can fall into a state of depression, anxiety, sleep disturbances, frequent dreams, and encounter problems. nightmare. At this time, the caregiver needs to pay attention to the signs, find out the reasons, the causes..
Orphans can still develop comprehensively if they experience a good educational environment. Children meet teachers who know how to train and love. Kim Thanh cited the famous painter Leonardo da Vinci. Although he had enough parents, he lived with his grandparents since childhood. The uncle found Leonardo da Vinci bored, so he found him a drawing teacher. The teacher taught him about the ability to self-study, supporting the premise to help Leonardo da Vinci learn many things later. “The role of a teacher with adolescents is very important,” said Ms. Thanh.
Answering the question “Which educational environment is best for the development of orphans”, experts said that the family model still needs to be prioritized. If this is not met, the children can live in a shelter environment, a boarding school.
Boarding school is suitable for children from 9 years old, students studying in this environment are highly independent. “I have friends who studied away from home since childhood, stayed at school, grew up very well. A friend from Ba Ria Vung Tau is a young doctor, following the boarding school model from secondary school,” Ms. Thanh informed. .
“Children who have lost their parents due to Covid-19 will not be alone on the journey to growing up,” added Thanh. However, to do this, relatives and teachers need to pay attention to the spiritual life of students in addition to teaching in the classroom. Teachers and students are close, understand each child’s situation, often have private and intimate conversations. At that time, the relationship will be both a teacher, a parent, a motivation for the child to strive to study well and grow up.
Sharing the same opinion, Ms. Le Tuyet Mai – Deputy Director of Vietnam Children’s Fund said that the educational environment is important for children. Students who attend a boarding school will not feel self-conscious about sticking with their peers. The biggest advantage of the model is forging independence. They will grow up very quickly, live disciplined, develop well.
Ms. Mai also said that during their studies, children should return to visit their families if they still have relatives or relatives to maintain that relationship. Love is the strength for each person to overcome all difficulties, towards the good things in life. Sharing the same opinion, Ms. Tran Thi Thu Ha, President of FPT Trade Union, a member of the orphanage school project affirmed that this is the right thing to do and said that the school had planned to bring the children home to visit their relatives. every holiday, summer or when there is a need and a unit is committed to sponsoring trips for the children.
A good boarding environment needs to ensure facilities, meet nutrition, and have a sponsor. For example, the children have nannies with the role of protective mother, taking care of meals and sleep.
Sharing about the role of teachers with children, Ms. Nhu Trang – Lecturer of the University of Social Sciences and Humanities said that teachers who have direct contact with children should respect children’s feelings. That includes not wanting to share it with anyone. Teachers need to affirm that children are not alone, are an important person, have many people love and need them in life.
In the first stage, teachers respect children’s emotional and behavioral fluctuations, then slowly help them participate in daily activities: study, school activities, friends. The focus of the method is to help children feel “life goes on, children have many connections and responsibilities”.
With the cooperation of the whole society, experts hope that Dang Truong and many other orphans will not be left behind. Ngoc Tuyen, Dang Truong’s sister, said that the two sisters are living on the support of everyone and the 5 million dong left by their mother. Tuyen’s younger brother, Dang Truong also gradually regained his spirit, his biggest dream is to enter medical school after graduating from grade 12. The 10-year-old boy wants to become a doctor so that his parents “up there” can proud.
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