Parents who are afraid of being dirty will not have smart children


Living in a world filled with phobias, many parents become reluctant to allow their children to play with dirt.

Article by educational psychologist Wang Hoa (China).

We all hope that children can live in a healthy and safe environment, so they are often too worried when they “play with dirt” because they are afraid that they will reduce their resistance and easily get sick. But is that true?

There is a large playground near my house. There they can climb, run, and even throw things around. The puddles after the rain also become an attractive “playground”. “Look how filthy the baby is wading”; “Stop playing with water, get all your clothes wet now”; “What’s wrong with you, whoever allowed to play dirty water, get sick now”, I heard many adults screaming like that.

If the fear of dirt prevents children from exploring new things, it is a great disadvantage. Illustration.

But there are still children allowed to play in puddles, their parents even jump in and play with their children. They laughed loudly in a corner of the courtyard in the envious, yearning eyes of the other forbidden children.

Chinese educator Tao Heng Zhi once said, it is necessary to free the minds, hands, feet, space and time of children, so that they can have a completely free life and a real education from life. live freely.

“Allowing dirty play is the first step for children to be free. If you are afraid of being dirty and prohibit your children from exploring new things, it is a great disadvantage.“, This educator confirmed.

My friend Wang changed my view of “dirty” children. Vuong likes to be clean, the house is always bright, fragrant, without a single litter. However, she said that if you go back to a time when your daughter was a child, you definitely wouldn’t choose cleanliness.

At that time, when girls demanded to eat alone, Vuong did not allow them because they were afraid that they would “eat you sparingly”. Results to 7 years old, the mother still fed. When he was playing with the neighbors’ children, when he saw them with their hands and feet covered in dirt, Wang shouted to stop. At home, her daughter likes to draw everywhere, but because she is afraid of being dirty, she just lets her draw on paper. Gradually she becomes less enthusiastic and less interested in everything.

If parents always tell me not to touch one, do not touch that, the child is like being locked up and dare not actively “touch” the world. Such children are not only unhappy but also lose the initiative to explore life.

Dirty clothes can be washed, messy rooms can be cleaned, but if the child loses the ability to actively seek knowledge and learn because of fear of dirty, there is a disadvantage.

Do not let fears of parents spoil curiosity, affect the maturity of children.

French writer Jean Henri Fabre – author of the book “Insect sign” from a young age was a child who loves to explore. In his free time, the boy was lying on the grass, watching the ants. Jean Henri was excited to watch weaver ants fight black ants. During his observation, he discovered that ants used the kiss to convey information. “The world of insects was so interesting it made me forget to sleep,” the writer recalls.

Out of curiosity, Jean Henri always spends time observing, which has accumulated a great deal of knowledge about the insect world and produced the world famous book “Insects Signing”. But imagine, if Jean Henri’s parents were afraid of the dirt, they made their son stop watching like “Don’t lie on the ground, freaking out”, there would probably be no writer or “parasitic insect”.

Games that seem dirty, such as scribbling, smudging on drawing paper, jumping on sticky mud or disassembling different types of toys ... all express curiosity and desire to explore. young.  Illustration.

Games that seem “dirty”, such as scribbling, smudging on drawing paper, jumping on sticky mud or disassembling different types of toys … all express curiosity, wanting to examine destruction of the child. Illustration.

Children’s creativity will always exceed the imagination of adults. But children must be created bravely and freely without being disturbed by their parents.

On the weekends, I took my daughter to the school experience class. The teacher asks the children to draw freely and color as they like. But during the process, I heard: “The color is wrong. Look closely, it gets on your clothes, it’s so dirty.” “Hey worm must be green, why is red”; “Be careful, the color is all over the face, let me wipe it for you” … Finally, due to the guidance of parents, the children gradually do not enjoy this activity. There are even parents who are afraid of dirty clothes, and have completed the drawing for their children. Meanwhile, some other children are very happy when the drawing ends. Although their works are not up to standard in the eyes of adults, they are colorful paintings.

Parents, for fear of dirt and clutter, ask children to draw on demand, which goes against the nature and destroys the child’s creativity. Creativity is not talent, but ability. This ability can be cultivated and is well worth developing.

Experts in North America have studied creativity for many years and point out that creativity comes from curiosity and giddy psychology. Games that seem “dirty”, such as scribbling, smudging on drawing paper, jumping on sticky mud or disassembling different types of toys … all express curiosity, wanting to examine destruction of the child. A clean love is true, but if a parent destroys their child’s creativity for the sake of being clean, then it doesn’t help.

Renowned Japanese writer Watanabe Junichi tells a story in his book “The power of insensitivity”. A group of colleagues ate a group meal, because the ingredients were not fresh, everyone was poisoned, except for one young man. Watanabe Junichi said that this guy’s family is poor, so he ate unhygienic from a young age, so his digestive tract immunity is better than ordinary people.

Although the story of Watanabe Junichi is extreme, causing many people to laugh, it also has a certain meaning. In fact, the Center for Genetic and Environmental Research in the US states that there are about 100 trillion microorganisms living in each person’s body, many of which are good bacteria that help digest food, produces vitamins and fights bad bacteria. Over time, especially during childhood, each person develops its own microbiome. Just as antibiotics will destroy all beneficial and harmful bacteria, impurities will help replenish beneficial bacteria, help maintain the basic microbiota and maintain a balance between bacteria. good bacteria and bad bacteria.

If your child is healthy, let him play with the mud or dig up earthworms. Allow your child to hang out barefoot in the yard and plant his own in the garden. Children will have beautiful memories and develop a love for nature, and will also have the opportunity to maintain a healthy microbiota and immune system.

Vy Trang (According to the sohu)

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