While emotional intelligence (EQ) is often mentioned, few seem to have anything to do with social intelligence, though it may be more important.
Social intelligence (SI) is the ability to understand social situations and respond wisely and effectively in them. It is related to social prowess, also known as “street intelligence”.
Unlike general intelligence (IQ) and some aspects of emotional intelligence, social intelligence is not innate, but primarily through learning. That means it can be grown and increased.
According to Dr. Ronald E. Riggio, professor of leadership and organizational psychology at Claremont McKenna University in California, USA, social intelligence is made up of the following factors.
Socially intelligent people can prolong conversations with different types of people. At parties or social gatherings, they know how to mingle.
Understand social situations
Grasping “implicit” rules and norms of social interaction is an important part of social intelligence. An individual with a high social intelligence can easily see the role of another person and choose how to behave according to the situation.
Socially intelligent people are good at listening. They not only absorb what others have to say but also make the other person feel heard, understood and connected.
Understand the motivations of others
If you have good social intelligence, you will “read” others to know what they think, how they feel, what they like, and thereby predict their actions.
Socially intelligent people know how to position themselves to be comfortable with different types of people. This creates confidence and a “I can do it” mentality.
This is perhaps the most complicated factor in social intelligence. Socially intelligent people have the ability to balance the image created for society and who they really are.
To evaluate your social intelligence, answer the following questions and calculate the score. “Totally unlike me” is 1 point, “completely unlike me” is 5 points.
I like socializing.
I am comfortable with everyone, from old to young, rich or poor.
I am always in parties.
I can be strongly affected if someone laughs or frowns at me.
I often actively introduce myself to strangers.
I’m often interested in my impressions of others.
I adapt easily to all social situations.
When I’m with a group of friends, I’m usually their spokesperson.
At parties, I can immediately see who is interested in me.
I can easily guess a person’s character by observing how they interact with others.
Results from 40 points or more prove you have high social intelligence.
So how to develop social intelligence?
According to Dr. Riggio, this requires effort and hard work. Pay more attention to the society around you, improve your speaking and speaking skills. Learn to listen, do not hesitate to ask the other person to make sure you understand what they mean. Most importantly, study social situations and your own behaviors.
Thu Nguyet (Follow Psychology Today)