Parents can build their children’s independence by encouraging independence, avoiding insults, assigning chores, and making frequent gestures and words of love.
Independence is one of the important traits in a child’s healthy development. Being independent can help your child learn to handle various setbacks, pressures, and challenges throughout life. Nurturing children’s self-confidence and self-discipline is like building a buffer for them to jump higher in the future. Very Well Family.
Show love every day: If children know the love that adults are giving them, children will have a sense of security and belonging. A parent’s unconditional love lays the foundation for all the healthy and strong relationships children will build later. When determining life goals, children are more self-aware in housework and study, thereby building independence. Parents can often hug their children, say goodbye when they go to work, hug their children while reading, playing, and saying love sentences every day.
Play together: When you play with your child, your child will feel that parents like to spend time with them and value their companionship and presence. Communicating with parents regularly through games helps children develop confidence, learn how to form strong social bonds. Many studies have shown that children who regularly play healthy games will reduce the risk of depression and anxiety and increase the rate of happiness.
Give children responsibility for housework: Taking responsibility for age-appropriate tasks helps children understand the concept of purpose and meaning when completing work. When a child is unable to complete an assignment perfectly, parents should also praise and appreciate their efforts, reassuring them to try to improve over time. This job motivates your child to work hard, do better at housework, is how you help children build self-reliance and self-confidence.
Encourage independence: The elementary years are a time when children develop independence rapidly. When they reach middle school age, many children begin to spend time at home alone, wanting to walk to school by themselves, helping the younger ones. Adults should respect children’s independent development, choices, let children find ways to talk to teachers about any problems they face at school, encourage children to resolve minor conflicts with friends. The fact that parents interfere too deeply in their children’s lives and relationships will make children gradually become dependent on their parents, with no intention of building independence.
Avoid insulting children: When a child misbehaves or does something that upsets you, adults need to stay calm and make sure that, even if they get upset, they don’t say something that would embarrass the child. Parents should avoid yelling in front of their children, and talk respectfully instead. From the lessons learned after doing something wrong, children will understand and adjust themselves so as not to repeat the violation for the next time.
Time management using technology: Children who watch TV and phones too much will not have time to talk and communicate with other members. Children spending too much time using devices can also affect physical activity. When the child is dependent on technology, has little motor thinking, less communication, gradually he does not have the habit of building a plan for himself.
Adults should devise a balanced electronic device use plan, encouraging children to participate in activities outside of screens such as walking, cycling, reading, playing games.
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