While tutoring your child while “surfing the phone” or getting angry when saying “the lesson is so easy that I don’t understand” … are common mistakes of parents.
Tutoring children, especially elementary school children, is a “headache” task for many parents, especially after a hard day’s work. Furthermore, proper tutoring is a matter of controversy.
According to psychologists, the right thing to learn with children, it is necessary to ensure the following 3 points:
The first: Give children the right space for learning.
Second: Children grasp knowledge learned in class and actively apply them well in homework.
Third: Parents have an active role in supporting and accompanying their children, not a “problem solving machine” for children.
However, in reality, not all parents can be successful as a child helping children learn, for the following reasons.
Parents lack attention
Many parents, while their children are studying, turn on the television to watch in the living room, making the child himself excited and impatient to watch. Thus, the quality of children’s learning decreases, because everyone sees that everyone “relax”, we have to learn for ourselves. Or another example, many parents when teaching their children to take advantage of reading news, surfing social media … because “working hard enough, just want to relax”.
According to experts, should give your child a quiet place to study, away from television, away from noisy places. You sit in the same room, but while the child concentrates on his homework, the parents can read. When parents show seriousness and focus on their reading work, children also focus on it.
Parents force children to study without rest
Children are active, it is not difficult to understand when they sit at school without itching, limbs, hair, then thirst, hungry … Therefore, it is advisable to give them time to rest in the middle of the lesson. For example, you should suggest that your child study for 30 minutes, then rest for about 10 minutes, and then sit back to study. The short “break” also helps the child’s body to move gently, avoiding sleepiness when studying. The rest of the children also shows that parents understand somewhat of the hard work of learning and are willing to share with their children.
Parents embankment supervision of children
Many parents complain that: “Just take one eye out and it makes a mistake, or it is done for a while to run out.” Of course a child in primary school is active, this is inevitable. But the fact that parents say so also shows a lack of trust in their children, exaggerating their own role as a supervisor, unintentionally making the child dependent and delayed in cooperating with their parents. .
In essence, parents supervising the embankment of their children is the parents’ needs: to want their children to do their homework correctly, to present well, to make sure they are not thirsty, hungry … Equip knowledge in class, and be able to solve assigned tasks by yourself when going home, although of course the results can be right, wrong, beautiful, or bad. The parents’ excessive intervention in their children’s homework reduces their independence, reduces the ability to actively do homework, gradually forms the mentality of parents to urge them to do their homework. parents preach. Therefore, sitting next to me, showing me each mistake, each statement is not a scientific way. Even, this is also “house arrest”.
So how to be right?
Let your child do the homework according to their ability, encouraging them to find ways to solve the problem on their own. When they complete the lesson, you will help your child check and show them the mistakes, so that they can understand the nature of the problem and not repeat the same mistakes. When children have difficulties and need support, parents should elicit questions that encourage exploration, encourage curiosity, and let children find a suitable solution for themselves.
Parents impose adult thinking on the child’s thinking
This is a common mistake made by many parents. “Why is it so easy that I don’t understand?”, “Why just don’t know how to do it?” are common sentences that many parents utter.
In fact, this is a mistake: They are imposing their thinking on the child’s. Even many parents even bring the methods of higher education level to impose them on the primary level, while the children cannot approach that method. This “phase difference” leads to parents’ understanding of one side, children understand another way, making each lesson become extreme for both. In addition, when the child does not understand their meaning, many parents scold, scream, beat, make the child scared, psychological pressure to the point of losing the ability to think with exercises. The quality of the class cannot be guaranteed. Children may also have a sense of fear when parents sit beside teaching and dare not ask them questions that children do not understand.
Accompanying your child in the learning process is completely not an easy task. If you work hard, don’t forget that your child is also going through a exhausting school day. So, instead of putting more pressure on children, it is necessary to start with empathy. When your child has difficulty solving homework, it is advisable to take some time to learn how to solve the problem according to his or her level, and then apply it to teach them better.
Thuy Linh (According to Sina, Sohu)