Many studies show that perfectionism is not a good trait because it can negatively affect the working environment, alienating colleagues and making it difficult for the team to get along.
A 2018 study by experts Andrew Hill and Thomas Curraninves (UK) based on responses from more than 40,000 university students about “degree of perfectionism”, compiled between 1986 and 2015 shows, Young people tend to be much more perfectionist than previous generations. College students, whether under the age of 20 or GenZ, feel that people expect more from them and have higher expectations of themselves and those around them.
Research by psychologists Emily Kleszewski and Kathleen Otto, of Philipps University in Marburg, Germany, shows that perfectionists are often not perceived as ideal colleagues, even being avoided by others when they are not. work.
On a personal level, perfectionism has been linked to mental health, including depression, anxiety, and eating disorders. In fact, it’s part of the cause of burnout and stress, as expecting the impossible means preparing yourself for failure.
There are three common types of perfectionism: Perfectionism with oneself, with others and imposed by society.
Be perfectionist with yourself
This is the type of person who always expects to be able to do the best. They are often too strict with themselves, feel that their achievements are not up to their expectations, and are upset because they do not feel good enough.
At work, this type of perfectionism has the benefits of ensuring productivity, improving focus and efficiency. But self-perfectionists will always feel overwhelmed or dissatisfied with a failure instead of celebrating their achievements.
To limit and overcome the negative effects of this condition, experts say that taking good care of yourself and balancing life between social and recreational activities can help. Try to empathize with yourself, such as, “I missed practice today, but I still have a healthy life so it’s okay to lose a workout.”
Perfectionism with others
Signs of this type of perfectionism are when you think others should do what you think is right and get upset when things don’t live up to your expectations. But if you expect someone to always think, behave, or do things the way you want, you can create a toxic, judgmental environment that makes maintaining a relationship difficult. .
How to deal
If perfectionism with others is getting in the way of your relationships, try to be more understanding and empathetic. For example, when you feel displeased by your partner’s clutter every time you get home, you might think that they’re tired after a long day at work, so it’s easy to forget, or that they’re not as organized as you are.
Try making a list of the things you’re grateful for and the good things about someone close to you that you’re usually hard on. Learn to focus on small pleasures instead of expecting too much from others all the time.
Perfectionism is imposed by society
These are people who are obsessed with what others think of them and fear rejection. This thinking drives the opinions and approvals of others to extremes. They often believe that they are good enough only if people perceive them to be good enough.
How to deal
To avoid getting caught up in those thoughts, reinforce the positive voice inside of you. Make a list of your strengths, positives, and accomplishments to help you feel more confident about yourself. If you find that difficult to do, you can also list neutral aspects. Remember that your worries are unfounded because there is no evidence that other people are judging or thinking you are not good enough.
A perfectionist of any kind will want a quick ‘win’ when trying to fix his or her situation. But first, what you need are small steps. Enjoy the process instead of focusing on the results. Quickly recover from small mistakes and make changes as needed.
Ngoc Lan (According to HuffPost)