There are many reasons for children to excel, but the poor students have the same trait: ‘Not paying attention’.
Disorder in children is quite common and affects a child’s learning and brain development. Many people have questioned why children are so easily distracted without realizing that sometimes the cause comes from adults.
Distract your child’s concentration
When your child is doing homework, a parent breaks their child’s highly concentrated atmosphere by bringing a drink or fruit to the desk. Some people scold or beat their children just for a mistake in the previous assignment.
Although these two behaviors show concern, they seriously affect a child’s concentration. For example, after drinking water and eating fruit, it takes a long time for a child to return to doing homework.
Too much help
There are parents who buy a set of logos for their boys. Afraid that he could not complete it, he helped him assemble until successful. Thought when he finished, he would appreciate it, but he had ruined the work of the father and son. The father angrily asked the reason, the boy said: “No need for things that are not made by you by your own hands”.
Children’s attention needs to gradually improve in the process of “personal discovery”. Excessive help from a parent sometimes only interrupts the child’s concentration and diminishes a child’s interest. Because adults care too much, sometimes children choose toys, play styles, even playmates. This behavior causes pressure and loss of interest in children so they cannot concentrate.
Parents spend too much time on electronic devices
For many parents, a minute of not checking a phone is torture. There are even people who use the phone even while sitting at the table. With children, they often learn and repeat behaviors from their parents. Adults who watch the phone a lot will make their children learn.
This behavior is harmful to the child’s physical and brain development. They will not have the initiative to manipulate and control focus by the whole body, but simply the gaze “hangs” on the screen and the brain is empty.
So when you are with your child, parents start to change from themselves, put down the phone.
In addition to the 3 things that should not be done above, in order for children to improve their ability to focus, parents need to pay attention to the following:
Concentration must be cultivated in stages
1-2 years: When the baby plays, parents observe what kind of toy the baby likes to encourage more play that type, can temporarily store other toys to help children practice focusing on one thing.
If your baby loves to participate in a certain game, parents often play with the baby to increase excitement, share, and help the baby not be distracted by other things.
2-3 years: Should practice the child’s ability to focus on one thing.
For example, if a parent wants a child to bring a rag and tissue for him, he or she can ask for it twice, instead of having the child take two at once. This is what the famous Italian educator Maria Montessori once said: “You should do something else after you finish one thing” (one thing at a time).
4-6 years old: Teach your child to work with time and a plan.
At this age, the child’s ability to focus is about 13-20 minutes. So parents may ask their children to only do certain things during this time, such as reading a picture book. After reading, ask your child to tell their parents what the book is about.
Good use of the timer
For children to be highly focused, a timer can be used as a stopwatch.
Before going out or going to a meal that the child has an assignment to complete, parents just need to verbally notify the child, then start a countdown with a timer. For example “You have 30 minutes or 60 minutes to complete the exercise before going out”. The advantage of this is that from the time the clock starts to run, children will be highly focused on completing their goals and have no time to relax. Once the frequency of concentration increases, the child will develop a conditional response to the alarm clock alarm. This is much more helpful than being urged by a parent to scream.
Create a quiet space for your child
The space here is not just a room, but also a study table and playing mat. Here children can quietly do what they want in this space.
It should be noted that this space should not be a place where people often go in and out such as the living room, kitchen where there is often the fragrance of food because it can cause interference for children. Also, if it’s a desk, it’s best to clean everything on the desk except for pen and paper and other essentials.
Vy Trang (According to the sohu)